Looking For Lightening In A Bottle

Today I have found renewed inspiration to start writing again. It has been since last summer that I posted an entry here on my blog, but I feel so good after going out with friends yesterday and really enjoying myself that I wanted to plunge back into writing my book.

Nothing much has changed for me this last year except I’m still keenly looking for the secret to finding and maintaining a relationship in the "good chase" stage. To me life feels much more alive when you go about everyday having that look of happiness on your face. You know, it's the look that when anyone sees you and says you have that glow about you. It’s a blissful feeling that’s hard to describe in simple words, all I know is I love that feeling and miss it when it’s no longer there.

While everyone knows the basics of a loving and healthy relationship are good chemistry, commitment, and respect and that each of those are all so important isn't there something more that's needed.

Well, I am looking for the more, so how do you describe that feeling of blissful excitement? A good friend gave me an example of how he sees it, he calls it “finding lightening in a bottle”. And that to me so far is the best way to describe that ever elusive exciting feeling that stays and stays and outlasts time.

On Best Behavior Chase

My circle of girlfriends and I love getting together regularly to visit and catch up with what is happening with each of us.

Years back when we were all single it was always fun to hear if anyone had a new man in their life. We could always be count on it that one of us would say, “Girl, let me tell you, I met a new guy and he is so nice”. We then get all get excited because our friend is happy and so we listen intently while she then proceeds to give us details of how much of a gentleman he is, and how friendly and easy going his personality is and how they have so much fun together. Then, dare she say it, that he could be “Mr. Right”.

We are all so happy for our friend because she is so excited at the prospect of possibly meeting the man of her dreams so we only think this to ourselves because it would not be nice to dampen her spirit by blurting out "let’s hope he keeps it up" because we all know if he is faking it that it’s just a matter of time, usually 6 months before the real him will come out. We had all seen it happen before and it’s a well proven fact that no one can fake a good personality past 6 months.

The Early Chase

As a girl I was a tomboy so of course more of my friends were boys as compared to girls. We played softball, football, dodge ball and even play fighting. I was not a girly girl like my sister so the boys accepted me as one of them and we all had fun together.

All was good this one school year except I could not figure out why this one boy chased me home from school nearly every day. And since he was not one of my friends whenever I saw him I would be ready to run.

One day after running home from school from my smiling and giggling tormentor I asked my Mom why is this boy chasing me home from school every day saying “he is going to get me”. My Mom could tell I was scared so she asked me some questions about what he says and if he ever hit me. I told her does not and that I never even talk to him so I didn’t know why he was chasing me. All I knew was that I wanted her to go and tell him Mom to make him stop.

My Mom said she knew why he was chasing me and said not to worry. She told me that he chases me because he “likes me”, but that confused my little 8 year old brain because the boys that I played with were my friends and I thought they liked me. It took a few more years to figure out the kind of “like” my Mom was talking about.

Thinking back on that experience and many others over the years have made me curious about how men pursue or in other words “lovingly” chase women. Seems men are on their “best game” when they are chasing a woman.

Keep the Chase Alive

Ask a woman in a new relationship what is the question of the century and she more than likely will say, "Will I always be as happy as I am right now". I know this because I have asked that same question myself. The answer to this question is out there somewhere and it starts at the beginning with the CHASE.

Remember how good that happy "new relationship" feeling felt, well let's help each other to keep it going or in other words how to "Keep Him in Chase"

I want to share my own experiences and learn from yours as to what you do or don't do to keep the chase alive.

So tell it here, how do you keep him chasing YOU, so your LOVE does not go from WOW to WHAT HAPPEN?